Dark Side Of DAting...Am I Ready for It?
In many land, dating is viewed as a means of romantic entertainment, a fun activity. Dating thus takes many forms. For some, a date is a formal, structured affair---flowers, a lovely dinner and a goodnight kiss are all part of the agenda. For others, a date simply means spending some time together with someone you like. There are even couples who are constantly seen together but who claimed to be ‘just friends.’ Well whether I call it dating, going together or just seeing each other it usually amounts to the same thing; a boy and a girl spending a lot of time together socially, often unsupervised.
Nevertheless, when carried out intelligently, cautiously and honorably, dating is a legitimate way for two people to get to know each other. And yes, it can be enjoyable. But does this mean that I should date?
I may feel pressure to date. Most of my classmates date and naturally I do not want to seem weird and different. Pressure to date may also come from well-meaning friends and relatives. When my fifteen year old cousin named Gladys, was asked to go out on a date then my aunt advised her, “Whether you want to marry the guy or not, it has nothing to do with it. Dating is just a part of your natural development as a person…after all, if you always turn guys down, you’ll be unpopular and no one will ask you out.” My aunt’s words sunk down deep. Would my cousin be cheating herself out of a good opportunity? I know very well this guy we will be dating. He has his own car, lots of money and I knew he would show her a great time. Gladys really go and date with the gut. She was not close to her parents and turned to the boys she’s dating to find closeness and have someone to whom she could pour out her feelings who would really understand.
Nevertheless, we should not begin dating simply because we are pressured to do so! For one thing, dating is a serious business---a part of searching for the ideal man. But really, what justification could there be for two people of the opposite sex to begin spending a lot of time together other than to investigate the possibility of learning to love each other? In the long run, dating for any other reason is likely to result in anything but ‘fun’. Why so?
There is also a dark side of dating; youths are in the vulnerable period of life, “the bloom of the youth.” During this time, I may feel powerful surges of affection. There is nothing wrong with this; it is a part of growing up. Most young people today used dating in order to meet and have new friends and soon will develop and may survive to adulthood.
Whenever you’re pressured to date because of your friends and not by your own decision. Never be tempted to that! Stay chaste and calm, don’t allow yourself to be cheap and worthless by just dating with anyone. In my age know I realize that dating is a serious affair and negatively it may also lead me to sexual desires that’ very premature to my age right now. Think about this!
I can’t stand an unfair teacher! No doubt many students feel the same way too. I am upset when I get low grades for what I feel is high-grade work. I resent it when discipline seems excessive or uncalled for or seems motivated by racial bias. I am really angry when special attention or preferential treatment is given to the teacher’s pet. These are the students who always go near to the teacher’s table, talked to our teacher.
Granted, teachers are far from infallible. They have their fair share of quirks, problems and yes prejudices. “Do not hurry yourself in your spirit to become offended”, says one proverb. Even teachers stumble many times. If anyone does not stumble in word, this one is a perfect man, able to bridle his whole body. Could I therefore give my teacher the benefit of doubt?
I experienced to feel unfair to one of my subject teachers. I was really shocked when I knew was grade was 86, which was the lowest grade given by our teacher. I really felt puzzled because I have submitted all my projects on time. Do I deserve to get that very low grade? While the others submitted their projects late but given bigger grades because they are the teacher’s pet! My teacher blamed me because it was my fault that he didn’t see my project plan in his table. It was his responsibility to keep it because he told me to put it there. Soon I realized that we sometimes fail to accomplish their task because we are very busy.
What about those special favors accorded to the teacher’s pet? I should bear in mind that a teacher faces unique demands and pressures. He faces a serious predicament in which they must try to hold the attention of a class whose some minds are usually elsewhere…they have before him a group of highly moody students. Is it any wonder, then, that my teacher may lavish attention or treat him with respect? True, it may gall me when seeming ‘apple-polishers’ get more attention than I do. But why should in be upset or jealous if some diligent student is a teacher’s pet, as long as my educational need are not ignore? Besides, it may be a good idea to be a bit more true to my self.
We sometimes feel that our teacher is not fair to all of the students. But we should be bare in our minds that we should understand and thoughtful to them. They are also people, they need affection and to be loved. They are also one of us, let’s not put our minds that they are really unfair because they don’t. They want us to realize that we should be diligent, obedient, and attentive and be thoughtful in the class. We should cooperate with them and never think that they don’t love us because they do. We should respect them as our second parents and never behave distractible. Let’ love them and show to them that they are one of a kind. We too, should be fair!
